With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt[a] water flow from the same spring? --- James 3:9-11
Ahhh...I love the book of James. If you look in my bible, that and Job are pretty well worn LOL. Do you remember the Nike commercial on TV a couple of years back? Their slogan was "Just DO it!" - those three words sum up James perfectly for me! He doesn't give you a bunch of parables, or go into great detail. Nope...he just says "ok..you say you love Christ? Well, then DO WHAT HE SAYS" end of story!
What does this have to do with letting go you ask? Ahh.. well...remember my last blog post? about having faith?
Well, the good thing is...I did tame my tongue. The bad thing is, I did not tame my heart. Most of the times when I get angry or frustrated, it's because I feel that God was slighted. I have a tough time accepting the fact that either a) Maybe the other person didn't hear God as well as I did (I mean, after all, if *I* can hear Him, *they* should be able to!) or b) That perhaps God's will WAS done anyway...(huh? it wasn't MY will?? why not?!)
So...the pastor gives his message on Sunday, and it would have gone perfectly with what I had told him I wanted to share prior to worship. It was a God moment, really. But...didn't happen that way. I didn't share, because he spent a period of time on something else, and it just did not seem right in my heart to do it.
I was pretty frustrated. I confess some of it was self, but a lot of it was the fact that we as a team had felt in our hearts this was something that God wanted, something I had prayed about, and even though I communicated that, it didn't "sink in".
So, instead of trying to listen to the message, I stewed. Yes, I am a stewer, I confess! I seethe, and grumble inwardly until I figure out I'm being ridiculous and stop. I've gotten better, since it's not something I am proud to admit I do, and actually my hubby has been a huge help in that regard. He gets mad, blows his top like the teakettle, and five minutes later he's a sweetheart. I blow my top, and 3 hours later, I'm a sweetheart, but before then, stay away!!! I realized that wasn't really fair to him or my family, so I really do work hard in trying to get over that. I've made some major improvements! This stew only lasted 45 minutes LOL.
So what do you do when you stew?
Psalm 4:4 says In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Selah
Selah... Loosely translated, it means "Hey, THINK about this...I mean...sit still and REALLY think about this - it's some heavy stuff".
So, I did, and am now, because this isn't the first time it's happened, so, I tend to stew a bit more. But in reality, stewing gets us nowhere. Things are going to happen or go a bit differently than what you perceived as God's will, because well...people are PEOPLE. We're all in different places on our walks with God. He takes us through each hill and valley together, yet separately at our own pace. That's something I find that's really neat about God, and also very helpful to remember when you are stewing...
So...did anything unbiblical happen? no. Was God dishonored? no. Then just drop it already, let GO...and let God deal with it! Be silent, and search your heart. Do not let anger consume you to the point where you sin.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. --- Romans 8:8