Hello. I'm in a couple of worship teams and have been a worship leader myself for over twenty years. I'm having problem understanding something. The worship leader in the church worship team I belong too only responds to questions regarding our worship team if she responds to me.
You see, the other worship teams I'm in presently & past - we have relationship with one another outside the team. The worship leader for our church only responds to me when it's my week to be on the team and only about music. She will not reply to things like "I heard you have been ill. How are you?". Or "do you have enough musicians this week?" She also never asks how I am also. For some reason this is frustrating me.
There could be a whole host of issues going on here.
I'm reading into your message here, but I assume that you are trying to communicate via email or some other form of electronic communications with her?
If that is the case, it just might not be a medium that she uses to communicate with outside of business. Over the years, I have learned to taylor my method of communication to the person that I'm talking to. My sister, for example, if you call or email her, you'll never hear back. Text her, however, and you'll get a response quickly.
One of the worship leaders at my church won't respond to emails either. However, if you call him or send him an IM, you'll get him rather quickly.
Another worship leader, well, she just never answers her phone. So you have to catch her in person.
Perhaps that is what is going on?
I'll say it. There are times when I think I'm only a "thing" to be used. I serve a role, and I'll get all the attention and resources because someone wants me to do my "job" well. Once it's over, that's where the support ends.
I'm more than guitar player, singer or worship leader. When I come bearing gifts and talents there are a line-up people wanting to talk to you to see how to apply those gifts to the church. Come with a problem, and sometimes you're passed along with a hot potato.
(If I'm honest and I look inside myself, I've probably been on both sides of that fence...)
Obviously that's the extreme, but unfortunately I think every worship leader has probably felt that. If you haven't then you have an truly amazing church and leadership group.
Sorry but I'm not really understanding your reply. I guess I'm not really explaining myself either. You see, I come from a place of high accountability not only to my Pastor but also to those I lead. Most of my friendships and ministry co-workers we know where each other is in Christ and etc. I have a hard time following a leader when I have no idea where they are spiritually. I'm not sure where her accountability is.
I don't need any more support.... I'm really blessed with a lot of that.
I attend a vibrant and growing church. We don't grow because we are a fluffy church that makes everybody feel good. We grow because there is a genuine heart for people in our congregation.
Every week I play, I'm on stage leading worship with a guys that I don't have close relationships with. We might do lunch every now and then, but outside of the worship team, we rarely interact. Now, there are various reasons for this - most of this is my fault as I work odd hours and can't fellowship on normal terms.
However, I am close friends with several members of the worship team. While I don't know all of the leadership's accountability, or even much about their personal habits, I trust my friends who do trust those people.
I think we should as leaders take time to fellowship, or try to for that matter with our team members. I for one, plan on working on that area soon.
Sue, you say " a couple of worship teams", and are they in the same Church? if not the leader might think that you are not on board with them. Just saying.
I am on a couple of worship teams and one is not involved in our church. But I will tell you about them if you want later.
I guess I ask about leadership accountability because the leadership holds us in accountability.
Do you trust your leadership?
Why do you think that you need to have an accountability type of relationship with them?
Oh I would love to hear about them! Message me if you like. Or you can find me on facebook.
I have only been the leader of a team that is about a dozen people in a small Church of around 100 people and I have been in some big time drama as a couple of the ladies on the team would not except change. We are over most of the drama now in this time without a pastor. We lost our pastor in August of 2010, and the board asked me to take over the team.