Hello. I'm in a couple of worship teams and have been a worship leader myself for over twenty years. I'm having problem understanding something. The worship leader in the church worship team I belong too only responds to questions regarding our worship team if she responds to me.
You see, the other worship teams I'm in presently & past - we have relationship with one another outside the team. The worship leader for our church only responds to me when it's my week to be on the team and only about music. She will not reply to things like "I heard you have been ill. How are you?". Or "do you have enough musicians this week?" She also never asks how I am also. For some reason this is frustrating me.
Another point to consider is "leadership" itself. In my experience, most people who are in those positions have very limited (if any) leadership experience or training. While one may accept or be appointed to a leadership position in the church, it doesn't neccessarily mean they have the education, knowledge, and experience to be an effective leader. I'm not knocking anyone for serving the church and our Lord. Certainly it can be a growth opportunity for the individual -- not to mention the fact that someone needs to do it. Good leaders all understand certain principles and display certain traits. Not all people in a leadership position know or understand some of these principles. I'm pretty sure this syndrome is more commonly found in the smaller churches rather than the larger ones (due to limited people and training resources), but I'm sure it happens in both.
In any case, leaders are placed there by God for His reasons, and so it is important for everyone to understand their relationship to one another. Leaders lead by example, cause the team/group/congregation to grow, and make decisions for the good of the team/group/congregation. Team members labor to make the leader's vision and assignments a reality.
FOOD for THOUGHT:
God’s puposes do not depend on us. He has limitless ways to accomplish His will. The same God who led Moses could also use Joshua. If no one were willing to serve Him, the Lord would accomplish His work by His own divine power. We are not irreplaceable to the Lord. He will achieve His purposes. The question is this: Will we be part of God’s activity, or will He find someone else? We deceive ourselves if we think we are indispensible to God. Service to the Lord is an honor God bestows on us, not a favor we do for God.
God Bless You!